I came home from work one day, looked at myself in the mirror and was like, “WOW. She’s fire; she deserves amazing things!” So I put on a sexy playlist, poured myself a glass of wine, began parading my still fully clothed self around my apartment…and then I felt shame.

During one of the first in depth conversations Neil and I had before we starting dating, he shared that he was a virgin. Not too long after, shame and insecurity started to plague me…because I’m not.

When I began having sex, I was scared out of my mind. Like most of you, I was told a lot in church, "Don't have sex before you're married!" Never really was told the why (PROBLEM!), so when I "did it," I swore I was going to catch all of GOD's wrath in the form of an STD or an unplanned pregnancy.

Isn't it rather odd that the church runs from conversations about what it means to be a sexual being and sexuality when the GOD we praise created us in His image–meaning that sexuality and sexual desires were originally created by GOD?